It pains me when players are demanding toward coaches through the recruiting process. College coaches do not agree with your “right to be recruited.” This post was inspired by an email interaction I saw between a recruit and a head coach at an EXTREMELY prestigious institution. Here is the email:
It has been two weeks since we met, so I wanted to check in and see if you have decided whom you are planning to support. I would appreciate a quick response as I am trying to decide where to apply and submit my applications as soon as possible.
“Hi Coach” is not how you start an email. “Hi Coach ‘Insert Last Name’” is how you start an email. Hi Coach is lazy and impersonal, and looks like you’ve sent a mass mail to a slew of coaches. Let’s not forget you are about to DEMAND an answer…
“It has been two weeks since we met,”…I dare you to find a positive sentence in the history of emails that has started with a recall of a timeline of events. This is a direct jab at the coach. What if mom started her sentence with, “It has been two weeks since we asked you to clean your room”?
“So, I wanted to check in and see if you have decided whom you are planning to support.” Scholarship is the ultimate achievement, and “support” from a coach through the admissions process is second. At elite academic institutions a coach might only have a handful of recruits that he can support through admissions. If you are in consideration for support, congratulations. However, you have no right to get support, a coach can take as long as he wants to decide that, AND you definitely have no right to know which players he has chosen to support.
“I would appreciate a quick response” We will leave this line be.
“As I am trying to decide where to apply and submit my applications as soon as possible.” When a coach offers you support through admissions he will want to know if you are coming to the school. It is unicorn-rare for a coach to say that they will support you, but you can still go ahead and apply to other schools. So, this recruit is saying that they want to know what this coach is doing because he is considering other options. Why would the coach support you if you are planning on applying to other schools? What if a girl asked you to prom and said, “I’d appreciate you a quick response as I am trying to decide who else I will ask so I can pick the best date.”
Here is an alternative way to write this email so you are not getting yourself crossed off the coaches list.
Dear Coach “Last Name”,
It was great to meet you on our trip a few weeks back. I know you are deciding if I am in the mix for players you will support. I wanted to let you know I love “Insert School” and would see it as a privilege to be part of your program. With the application deadline approaching quickly do you think you’ll have an idea as to when you will make your decision? I look forward to hearing back from you.
Recruit (who won’t get crossed off your list)